Your Partner Wants A Hall Pass? Should You Do It? Isn’t this the million dollar question over the years.
Your partner has just asked you this powerful question. You have paused everything that you are doing, your heart is now racing at a mile a minute. Every emotion in the world has hit you.
And you have ended up here.
But the question still remains. Your Partner Wants A Hall Pass? Should You Do It?
You know what…
I am not against them.
I think that the urge to “try something new” is normal –
First of all.
Do not assume your partner does not like you and/or is not attracted to you.
I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. We have lived together for two of those three years. He and tend to be brutally honest with each other about sex, (which explains a lot about our sex life when i think about it).
So, recently he asked me “have you ever thought about cheating” and i was like pardon?
He repeated the question and i must say in all our openess this was a conversation i was not expecting.
So i thought about it.
And my answer was no.
I then followed up. “ I have thought of having sex with someone else, though.”
He responded that it is the same as cheating.
I was like “no, it is not sir – cheating happens behind your back and Is sneaky. Me wanting to have sex with someone else I would discuss with you its a hall pass basically”
I knew I had him at this point.
Now many couples fear this conversation, but as I am getting older, I am starting to understand why people are shying away for monogamous relationships and are starting to include a third party in their bedroom bandit behaviour.
For me, I would much rather he/she asks me about it. As weird as it might sound I do believe it is normal to be sexually attracted to someone else, who is not your partner. Sexual attraction and emotional attraction are not in the same vein as each other – however, a lot of people tend to mix the two up together.
I do believe that this is something couples who have been together longer will probably go through
To those people I say definitely discuss your options TOGETHER.
Don’t make it about you (this is key) and try to see where your partner may be coming from.
I am not saying let them guilt you into but ensure you are comfortable and not projecting your fears/insecurities into the conversation).
BUT TO THOSE WHO ARE NEW TO THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?
I am absolutely against a hall pass.
What do you need it for?
You cannot commit to one person’s genitalia for one year??
6 months in talking about a hall pass?
You better pass them back to the streets you found them. because if their mind can wander in the early days of a relationship – i don’t know what hope there is.
However if you both are in agreement to have sex with other people while dating then let it be an equal agreement this is not the same as your partner wanting a hall pass.
I cannot stress this enough.
COMMUNICATE I TELL YOU…
Disclaimer remember no two relationships are alike so please
Till my next opinion – @NessaVanesssa